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Travel Habits That Hurt Relationships

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Travel Habits That Hurt Relationships

In a perfect world all couples should be able to take at least one vacation together; only vacations can truly offer us a much needed break from the everyday rigors of life. “When it comes to sustaining your relationship, timing is paramount,” Dia Hicks, relationship expert and founder and CEO of SwaggerScan, says. “Waiting too long to go on vacation with your significant other increases the likelihood of losing the magic and luster that was there when you two began dating.” 

But what happens when you don’t prepare ahead of time, or you end up overscheduling your trip? Duda Jadrijevic, Buddhist Life Coach & Speaker, says that making a busy activity schedule instead of using your time to re-connect and calm down from a busy life will hurt your relationship.

 

--Nicole Dos Santos, Editor

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You’re More Interested in Your Smartphone

Technology has changed relationships in numerous ways; and – “choosing your addiction to Facebook on your iPhone instead of talking with each other,” will only hurt your relationship, Duda Jadrijevic, Buddhist Life Coach & Speaker, says.

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Overscheduling

Jadrijevic says that making a busy activity schedule instead of using your time to re-connect and calm down from a busy life will hurt your relationship. Take some down time to relax, bond with one another, and truly enjoy each other’s company.

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Money

“Some people are spend-thrifts and enjoy luxury, others are savvy with their money and save and prefer to opt for the budget accommodation,” Samantha Jayne, Relationship Expert for Channel 10's The Bachelor, says. “This can flow into the types of restaurants they eat at, amount of shopping that takes place or tours.” You should definitely consider having a conversation beforehand to discuss managing expectations.

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Eating and Drinking

“One person might be health conscious and want to eat healthy and minimise drinking and come back from a holiday looking fitter,” Jayne says. “Whereas the other person might want to indulge with the attitude of, ‘We are on holidays’ and are happy to come back with a jolly holiday glow.”

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Different Interests

“Forcing each other to do things that the other person doesn’t want to do will only cause arguments,” Jayne says. “It's best to compromise and mix things up with alone and couple time to balance things out.” Accept and appreciate each other’s differences to avoid arguments, she adds.

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Not Following Directions

“Traveling together as a couple should be an experience void of stress and anxiety. This means that MapQuest is your friend and, if you and your partner happen to wonder away from your hotel location, MapQuest is STILL your friend,” Dia Hicks, relationship expert and founder and CEO of SwaggerScan, says. “Getting lost together should only be a metaphor and not a reality while traveling together.”

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Lack of Preparation

Whether you are traveling by plane or by train, you should know and follow all travel rules and restrictions. “A lack of preparation can lead to more charges for your extra luggage and create a spectacle for the both of you,” Hicks says. “If travel oversights continue, your mate could become unenthusiastic when considering future travel plans. Conform and Enjoy.”

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Music

There is no doubt that couples traveling by car will have to share the music experience. “This means finding common ground when it comes to a musical playlist,” Hicks says. “Unless you’re Lil Wayne and you have a hot mixtape, a gentleman should defer to the women to lead the way. For you, the mission should be to find a song within her playlist that you like.” This approach will provide the opportunity for you to show a little chivalry, while also inspiring her become interested in knowing your favorite music, he adds.

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Delegating Responsibilities

Embarking on a road trip together will also mean delegating driving responsibilities between the two of you. “Although one person may assume this task, it should not be assumed that the other person will become the 'DD' in the relationship unless this has been mutually agreed upon,” Hicks says. “For every road trip, be sure to share the brunt of driving long distances or at lease offer to drive when/if your partner becomes sleepy. This will keep your partner from feeling like the costar in 'Driving Ms. Daisy' and will keep them enthused about the idea of future road trips together.” It takes two!

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Doing Everything Together

As much as you love your partner, and this trip was planned for the two of you to bond with one another, it might help if you schedule at least one separate activity. This will give you both the opportunity to pursue your individual sights of interest.

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You’re Messy

Whether this is your first or fifth vacation with one another, you should already be aware that you’re sharing a small space and practically living out of a suitcase. While living that way may be stressful, you should do your best to avoid being messy. Keep your stuff in your suitcase, not all over the floor; dry the bathroom floor after you shower; and make sure to put the toilet seat down.

Travel Habits That Hurt Relationships