The 10 Things That Are Stopping You from Loving Your Body from The 10 Things That Are Stopping You from Loving Your Body
The 10 Things That Are Stopping You from Loving Your Body
The numbers are shocking: 80 percent of women and 34 percent of men in the U.S. don’t like how they look, 70 percent of normal weighted women want to be thinner, and more than half aren’t happy with their current weight. Body dissatisfaction is an epidemic that strikes at every age and it can lead to depression, social anxiety and eating disorders.
People’s comments affect you
Some people are often cruel and they say things they either don’t really mean or with the purpose of hurting your feelings. In school this is usually a sign that the other person likes you; in adult life it means someone else seems to be dissatisfied or jealous of your body. Who cares? It’s yours. Don’t let other people’s bad moods and insecurities take over you.
You think you’re meant to have a different body
It’s called genetics. Just like you inherit the color of your eyes and hair from your parents, your body shape comes from them as well. Traits can be determined by genes, the environment, or by interactions between them, so diet and exercise matter as far as body size goes. But you won’t get long legs if no one in your family does. Mother Nature knows her job – you are in the best body for you.
You are obsessed with the scale
Focusing on a scale number only brings negative emotions. You will begin to view the whole process of being healthy as a task. You can still be losing weight and not see any difference on the scale. Keep in mind that even if the number has not changed, you are still winning. You’re working out more, you have more energy, lower blood pressure and balanced blood sugar levels. This is worth so much more than some number.
You constantly look in the mirror
Unless it’s to say “I love and accept myself no matter what,” there is no reason to constantly be looking in the mirror or store front windows to see your reflection. Your body won’t change in the five minutes you did not stare at it. If you think it has, it’s all in your head. Besides, the image is often inaccurate because of the optics, angle, or lighting.
You put looks above feelings
You can be skinny and sick, and you can be slightly overweight and healthy. Have you ever heard of people who are “skinny fat”? This means that a body has little lean muscle and a lot of fat. Healthy people have the opposite ratio. More muscles mean faster metabolism, more energy and lower risk for chronic diseases. Two people can weigh the same and have similar body size, but one can be a lot more muscular than the other.
Get rid of the fashion magazines
Trying to look like a celebrity is an unrealistic goal you should never set. You don’t have the same body type as Cameron Diaz so don’t aim for thin legs when you’re more like Jennifer Lopez – blame genetics for that. Don’t try to look like her either because what you see in magazines is not what she looks like in real life. Photoshop and other design programs have been showing a false representation of celebrities for years.
Comparing yourself to other women is like a full-time job
Stop training your brain to dislike you. Every woman is different and has something unique to offer. You can’t compare apples and oranges, can you? They are two completely different kinds of fruits with various colors, nutrients and tastes. But they are both absolutely delicious and good for you. Constantly comparing your body to others’ is exhausting and leads to never feeling good enough.
You’re always on a new diet
What people find most difficult when they set out to lose weight is the expectation of a quick fix. Understanding that dedication to the process takes time and staying committed is often the biggest hurdle. So don’t unnecessarily stress your body with new eating habits every week; you’re only sabotaging yourself. Healthy living programs aren’t about being perfect; they are about being consistent.
You focus only on the negative
Don’t think “Oh, I have huge thighs, I wish they were smaller.” Bigger thighs may actually protect against premature death or heart disease. A British study says thighs that measure about 24 inches are characteristic of healthy men and women, while thinner thighs were associated with higher risks of heart conditions. The reason may be that a chunkier thigh has more muscle, which results in better regulation of the metabolism and insulin levels.
You wear the wrong clothes
Emphasize the best features about your body by wearing the right clothes. Celebrity photos and magazines will not help you with that. Many stores have personal shoppers whose job is to help you find what’s best for you. They know what dresses and pants fit every type of body. Don’t wear size 4 when you should be size 2 or 6. Baggy or tight clothes never complement a person.