How to Pick Yourself Up When You're Down: The Ins and Outs and Everything Else



When you’re feeling low it can be extremely hard to see a way out but it is possible to set yourself free. It can appear hopeless and you can feel helpless when your mood dips, but know you have options. Here are seven suggestions for how help yourself up when you’re down:


Be Gentle with yourself

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When feeling low, your energy can be low as well. Everyday tasks can feel insurmountable when you’re depressed.

Remind yourself this is not a character flaw and then make a plan. Set small goals that you can accomplish and reward yourself for. It can be something as simple as a 5-minute walk around the block.

Don’t start too big. You don’t want goals that will overwhelm you in your low mood. The key is to be gentle with yourself, make small, doable steps that can further motivate you and slowly build yourself up.

Don’t rush yourself, recovering from a bout with depression or a low mood, takes time.


Reconnect with Loved Ones


You may feel you’re a burden to friends and family but that is the depression talking.

By being alone and isolated your low mood is able to dwell in your mind and body. This isolation just produces more isolation --- it can be vicious cycle.

Your loved ones want to and can be a very valuable asset in your recovery. It may seem impossible but try to reach out to them. Remember humans are social beings --- we need to connect with others to thrive.

It isn’t about your friends and family cheering you up. Rather, it is about getting outside of yourself, connecting with others who genuinely care for you. This will allow you to witness that you truly matter.


Reduce Stress


Stress can cause a depressed mood. Experiencing strain and pressure in day-to-day life can lower mood as well as increase irritability and cause an inability to concentrate.

Practice self-compassion when it comes to mistakes you make. Cut yourself some slack and allow yourself to be imperfect. Look at all you’ve accomplished, acknowledge your victories and the lessons you’ve learned.

Focus on the big picture then you’ll be able to keep more perspective on the individual events that make up your day and contribute to your stress.


Activate your Body


Just the thought of being active can be exhausting to a person experiencing a low mood. But getting your blood pumping and your body moving can help raise your spirits. Not only that but exercise also helps your brain to grow and regenerate.

You don’t need to run a marathon or even go to the gym. Instead find ways to move your body, stretch or even dance around your apartment. It might seem counterintuitive but getting active will up your energy levels and lower your fatigue.


Reengage with Interests


When depressed, it can truly feel like you don’t have any hobbies or interests.

Challenge yourself to think back to what you used to enjoy, what activities invigorated you, where you’d laugh and have fun. Push yourself to participate in a hobby, sport or creative practice you used to be involved in.

It’s not that you’ll automatically have fun or get pleasure out of going through the motions of these activities. It is about reconnecting with yourself and what you have loved.


Practice Self-Care

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Taking care of your body may be the last thing you want to do when you’re experiencing depression. It can feel pointless or even a waste of time and energy, but it is incredibly valuable.

You want to ensure your physical body is healthy plus it is you lovingly caring for yourself.

This includes taking a shower or bath regularly, brushing your teeth and combing your hair. Eating well and maintaining a consistent sleeping pattern to ensure you’re getting ample amounts of sleep. Poor sleep can worsen depression symptoms.


Avoid Alcohol & Other


When depressed you may want to escape from the overwhelming negative feelings. Alcohol or other mind altering substances might seem appealing but they will not provide the relief you need. Drinking alcohol and/or using drugs area way to self-medicating.

Drugs and alcohol take pain and emotional discomfort away from a few hours but the feelings inevitably return. If you continue to use the substances, your body will build up a tolerance and you will have to increase your consumption to create the desired effect.

Not only that, but you won’t be facing your underlying issues that your substance abuse is attempting to cover up. In fact you’ll be are creating more problems.


Emotional ups and downs are inevitable in our lives. It is important to identify when we may be slipping into a depression and ways to stave it off. 

Remember these seven options and never be afraid to book an appointment with your physician to ensure you get the care and support you need.


Kacey Mya Bradley is a lifestyle blogger for "The Drifter Collective."  Throughout her life, she has found excitement in the world around her.  Kacey graduated with a degree in Communications while working for a lifestyle magazine. She has been able to fully embrace herself with the knowledge of nature, the power of exploring other locations, cultures, and styles, while communicating these endeavors through her passion for writing and expression. Her love for the world around her is portrayed through her visually pleasing, culturally embracing and inspiring posts.

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