Showers are typically held about two months out from the big day. If it’s a particularly large wedding with a lot of details, maybe make it a little earlier so that the bride and the bridal party aren’t too pressed for time.

No matter the size of the shower, there will always be heavy hitters. We’re lookin at you, bride’s favorite aunt Cheryl. Check in with the VIPs a few months out and give them the option of a few dates to make sure they can make it before landing on a final day.