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10 Things You Should Never Talk About on a First Date

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10 Things You Should Never Talk About on a First Date

“The importance of going on a date with someone would be to re-confirm initial attractions (whatever those might be) and determine if there's a mutual interest to continue getting to know each other,” says Dia Hicks, relationship expert and founder and CEO of SwaggerScan. “The importance of asking the right questions on your first date is now paramount but there are also questions you'll need to avoid early on.” 

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Keep the conversation casual and fun by avoiding asking too many personal questions and staying far away from topics like politics, family drama, and babies. Don’t go on and on about yourself, stay far away from your latest diet, and do not talk about your past relationships.

A first date can be nerve-wracking, which is why it’s important to relax. Take the pressure off; just have fun and enjoy each other’s company.

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Yourself

“No one wants to be considered dull or boring which gives reason to listing your most notable life accomplishments and current involvements,” says Dia Hicks, relationship expert and founder and CEO of SwaggerScan. “Unless you were in the Rio Olympics, leave your gold medal at home and focus on the most important things on a first date.”

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Social Media Activity

“Some first dates go over so well that both parties connect on social media, which sounds great if social media is where the two of you actually found each other,” Hicks says. But social media is a private place for most internet-goers; your personal accounts may feature close friends and family. “This shouldn't be revealed so early in the get-to-know process,” he adds. “Better being safe than sorry.”

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Politics

Unless the both of you are working in the political field, you may want to save this topic for date number two or three, Hicks says. “First, give yourself the opportunity to find out why you liked the other person enough to consider going on a date in the first place.”

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Family Drama

We’ve all got a bit of family drama, but your date doesn’t need to know about it, especially on the first date. No matter how much you love your sister, your date doesn’t need to know about the fight you’re having with her and the chaos it’s bringing into your life. Keep the conversation light and casual, and refrain from talking about your personal family issues.

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Marriage or Babies

You’re on your first date, you should be spending time having fun, enjoying each other’s company, and getting to know one another. Take it slow and don’t rush things; you may accidently scare your date away by talking about how many bedrooms you’re going to need.

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Dieting

So you started a new diet and you’re doing your best to eat healthy — your date really doesn’t need to know about it. First of all, conversations about diets can be a bore, and second, you want a partner who is secure and confident; no one wants to date someone who is constantly restricting his- or herself.

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Your Ex

Under any circumstance, do not talk about your ex, regardless of whether they’re crazy or still your best friend. The more you talk about your ex, the more you end up pushing your date away; this forces your date to think that you’re simply not over your ex yet. If you want to begin a relationship with someone new, you’re going to have to let go of the past.

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Stories Beginning With “I Got So Drunk and…"

Unless you want to be perceived as a complete mess who doesn’t know how to control his- or herself, it is strongly advised to leave these types of stories for when the relationship becomes more serious. The last thing you want to do is scare your date away with stories that shed a negative light on you.

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Don’t Ask Too Many Personal Questions

“While your awareness of risks-while-dating may have now been heightened and it makes total sense, asking too many health-related questions is a turnoff and could destroy romance if done wrong,” Hicks says.

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Money

Some people have it, and some people don’t. Talking about money can make some people uncomfortable. According to time.com, a survey concluded that “seven in 10 people consider it rude or inappropriate to discuss personal money matters in a social setting.” Avoid unnecessary tension on your date and refrain from talking about money.

10 Things You Should Never Talk About on a First Date